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2009-10-30 @ 2:46 p.m.

What I've learned from this:

We kept waiting for the next big thing to fix us...but it wasn't 'us' that was the problem. Because now that we're not together, I'm still waiting for the next thing - the next change that will make me happier, improve my life. There have been brief exciting periods of time, of course, but never has life been without those periods anyway.

We expected that just being together would make ourselves happier. But it doesn't work that way. It's the American way to never be satisfied with what you have...we think having more is what is important. But what really matters are the people in our lives. We need to spend less time striving to be the best at our jobs and trying to make more money, b/c it just makes us miserable. If we spent more time just enjoying what we like about one another and also taking time alone to do our own favorite things, rather than expecting the other to make us happy or to change to fit some sort of mold...and perhaps just accept the personality flaws in the other...everyone would enjoy life a lot more.

Now, whether having this knowledge will, in fact, change a thing...that's to be determined. But at least now I know.

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